Between Fear and Love: The Energy That Moves Us

I’ve been thinking lately about what really drives the choices we make - not the surface reasons, but the energy underneath.

What really drives us when we say yes or no, when we eat, rest, work, show up for people, or pull away?

If we look closely, most decisions can be traced back to one of two places: fear or love.

When you say yes to something, is it because it genuinely feels right, or because saying no feels uncomfortable? When you eat, move, rest, or give your time - are you led by fear, or by love?

It sounds simple, but it’s not. Because most of us want to live from love - yet our nervous systems are running on stress - which means we make decisions that are rooted in fear.

When fear quietly takes the wheel

Fear is sneaky. It doesn’t always announce itself. It hides behind “being responsible,” “staying productive,” or “doing the right thing.”

It sounds like:

• “I’ll just keep pushing - I don’t want to fall behind.”

• “I’ll say yes; they’ll think I’m rude if I don’t.”

• “I should eat better - I don’t want to get sick.”

From the outside, everything looks fine. Inside, there’s tension - the subtle hum of not enough, the body slightly on guard, running the day on autopilot.

When we’re in that state, even good intentions are coloured by survival energy. It pushes us to keep doing, proving, managing, perfecting - because deep down, we’re afraid of what might happen if we don’t. It keeps us safe, but small.

Love needs space

Love on the other hand expands us. It’s not sentimental, it’s honest. It moves from care, not fear.

It’s the energy behind choices that feel clean and peaceful, even if they’re hard and take courage (we make them despite the fear):

• “I’ll rest - my body is asking for it.”

• “I’ll speak honestly, even if it feels awkward.”

• “I’ll eat better because I respect my body.”

These are the choices that come from being attuned to ourselves, they have a different frequency to them. Choosing from love doesn’t mean there’s no fear - it means you’re no longer led by it. You act from awareness, not survival. You respect and nourish your soul -> you grow.

The small shift that changes everything

I’ve started catching myself in small, everyday moments - when I open the fridge, scroll my phone, say yes to something. And I ask quietly: “What energy is moving me right now?”

It’s not about judging myself or always choosing the “right” one (trust me, there's still a lot of work to do there ;) - it's just about noticing. Because the more I notice, the more I see how different life feels when it’s driven by love instead of fear. When I choose to skip on that cake/glass of wine, not because I'll get fat or sick, but because I love to feel healthy/present - it just feels better. Same actions, different frequency.

The thing is, love can’t be forced. It needs stillness, a moment to breathe, to listen, to connect inward before reacting outward. You can’t choose from love when your body thinks you’re in danger. These are the choices that come from an attuned nervous system - one that feels safe enough to soften, to trust, to stay open

This is where sound comes in

Sound is one of the simplest ways I know to find that space again.

When surrounded by sound - whether from a singing bowl, gong, tuning fork, or even your own hum -

. The body remembers what safety feels like. The mind quiets. And suddenly, you’re able to feel again - to notice, to reflect, to choose.

Sound doesn’t tell you what to do; it simply helps you come home to yourself, so you can ask the real question:“What’s moving me right now - fear or love?”

And from that place of calm awareness, the answer is almost always love. And even if the answer isn’t what you hoped for. Even if fear is still behind the wheel. At least now you’re aware of it.

And that awareness is already a shift.

It’s one step closer to love.